Confidence is not something you are simply born with. Confidence is something that you gain through practice.
Confidence is the most important trait you can acquire. It is the difference between living a great life of adventure and abundance, versus living a life of fear and regret.
Self-confident people trust their own abilities and have a general sense of trust in their lives. They believe that, within reason, they will be able to do whatever they wish, plan and expect. People with no confidence do not trust their own abilities. They are hesitant, and thus miss out on good opportunities.
Self-confidence allows you to take risks, because you’ll have enough faith in yourself that, if things go wrong, you’ll be able to make them right. Without that confidence, you would never take risks, and live with regrets.
So how do you gain confidence?
Mainly, it is gained through practice and repetition. You will become confident in a certain skill set once you have good ability to perform it. That comes through many hours of practice and repetition. That could mean delivering a great speech, crafting the perfect wooden chair, or swinging a baseball bat. All activities require a lot of practice to achieve mastery.
So then how do you appear confident?
Have you ever heard the term “fake it ’til you make it?” It works.
It basically alludes to the appearance of being confident, even if you’re heart is pumping and your knees are shaking. If you appear to be confident, then people will put their trust in you, which will in-turn give you the faith to do it. It’s sort of like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The way to appear confident is by employing the 10 Power Body Language Cues. These are all the body postures that will allow you to convey authority, competence, and confidence. By simply standing in the proper position, you send the message that you are a person to respect and to trust. A simple power pose also fools your mind into believing that you can achieve anything. It is amazing how it works.
Try these 10 Tips for better body language:
1. Assume a power pose
Stand up straight. Feet slightly apart and equal with your hips. Spine straight. Chest out. Butt out. Breathe deeply from the pit of the stomach through the entire spine. Place your hands on your hips. Feel you entire body brimming with power and energy.
2. Look like you’re listening
A good trick to do this is to maintain strong eye contact, and cock your head slightly to the side. This gives the appearance of deep and thoughtful
listening. Also, keep your mouth shut and speak less. Remember, “he who speaks least wins.”
3. Remove barriers
Physically, don’t have barriers between you and the other person. Don’t cross your arms. Don’t hide behind objects. Assume a power pose and maintain open body language.
4. Shake hands
A firm hand shake is the beginning of every relationship, and is the strongest first impression. It is very simple to do, and
very important. Remember to give a firm grip, and make your presence felt.
It is so easy, and so infectious. Everybody loves a good smile. Strangers will instantly warm up to you. People will perceive you as kind and friendly, no matter what. A good smile can take you a long way.
6. Mirror expressions and postures
Mirroring is an old sales trick. It is also effective. Good mirroring begins with breathing techniques. Try to match the other person’s breathing patterns. After that, try to match their stance, their posture, and their speaking patterns. Give it some practice, and soon it will come naturally.
7. Use your hands
Emotions are conveyed through the hands. If you look out for it, you’ll notice that people show their insecurities through their hands. They fidget or hide them or play with things. Instead of showing insecurities, display confidence by using your hands with more intention. Be emotive with them.
8. Watch people’s feet
Just like the hands, the feet are another spot where people express their unconscious emotions. They try to hide them, or scuffle them, or they point them in the direction that they want to go. It is fascinating once you are aware of this.
9. Keep your voice low
Just like a radio announcer, practice speaking slow and low. Don’t raise your voice too high. Keep it controlled. Try speaking slower than whatever you are currently do. Whatever you feel like you sound like, you are usually speaking too fast. Slow it down, and deepen it.
10. Uncross your arms and legs
Practice open posture, and it will allow better things to come into your life. Be open with everyone, and they will be open with you. That is the best way to strengthen relationships and gain confidence.
Practice all of these techniques in your daily interactions. Please let me know if there is anything I’m forgetting, or anything that you’ve learned from this exercise.