What does it mean to be bold?
Doesn’t it mean being courageous and daring?
Does it mean showing no fear in the face of danger?
Does it mean breaking the rules?
When I think of boldness, the the key for me is disruption.
Being bold is about disrupting certain social norms. It is about disrupting your normal routine, your normal thought patterns, your comfort zone. It means breaking from convention.
If you decide to jump out of a plane or go bungee jumping, is that being bold? I would say maybe, but it’s probably more daring than bold.
If you decide to order pancakes for dinner, is that being bold? Well it might be disrupting your normal routine, but it isn’t exactly a bold choice.
Boldness requires a declaration. You need to announce to yourself and to the world that you are being bold. Bungee jumping is daring activity, which may be the bi-product of your bold declaration to live life more adventurously.
While I love pancakes, the bolder choice would be to make a declaration to eat healthier, and finally order that salad that you always glance over.
I like to think of boldness in the context of dating, because that is an area that requires confidence, bravery, and a level of disruption. Dating is an area that can turn men into mice. They may be great in a lot of areas, but talking to a pretty woman is the hardest thing they can do.
Stopping a woman and asking her for the time requires little courage and is not a bold action. You may think it is a good step forward because it requires talking to a stranger. But the reason it is not bold is because it is well within social norms.
Walking up to a group of six people sitting down, asking to speak to the most attractive woman for a moment, telling her that you find her to be beautiful and you’d like to her out sometime, is quite bold. That takes an unbelievable amount of courage and bravery.
But you know what? That is what gets the response. That is how you stand out.
Bold action makes you memorable.
It also makes you energized.
If a guy were to actually walk up to a crowded group of people and ask to speak to the prettiest woman, I believe that single action alone would have him buzzing for the next week. That is what bold action does to you. It gets you buzzing. It gives you the natural high.
In fact, one single moment could change the entire course of your life. That could be your future wife that was just a beautiful stranger in the crowd before you spoke to her. That amazing job opportunity could be one phone call away, but you are too scared to make it. The next great business idea could be within your reach, if only you could kick out of your daily routines and take the first few steps.
Bold actions lead to even bigger outcomes.
So when was the last time you did something truly bold?